Can you guess what they are for me?
It’s not I love you.
Not I am sorry.
Or Please forgive me.
It’s not even No dessert, please. Though that runs a close second.
These three little words I’m having trouble uttering have been bothering me for most of my life. I’ve nailed down why, at least. At first glance, it appears to be a pride issue, but that’s not the case.
In fact it’s an I don’t want to bother anyone issue. That issue that runs pretty deep with me and is probably on the verge of some kind of disorder. It didn’t come from any life situations, it’s just who I am at my core. I hate to bug people and I pretty much always feel like I do, just by being me. That sounds a little psycho, doesn’t it? Please tell me I’m not alone.
Anyone? Anyone?
Ahem. Back to the little phrase I have trouble with. Can anyone guess what it is?
Do you suffer, too?
Jenny says
is it “I need help”…? cuz that is usually at the root of my “I don’t mean to bother you” or “I don’t want to burden you” issues too…
Bajanpoet says
Yup. “I need help” sounds like it… definitely my 3 hardest words….
Bajanpoet says
First time on this piece of blogospace .. came over from Jenny’s blog… I like what I see; will go exploring now… LOL
Elissa says
I am so with you. I need help are the hardest words to say. Not only because I don’t want to bother anyone else but also because I have this need to be Super Woman. I want to do everything and if I admit I can’t I feel like a failure. Again no life situation. Just how I was born.
Joanna Christiansen says
“I need help” Yep that is a hard one for me too.
Di says
I TOTALLY understand what you mean. I even hate making phone calls because I feel like I’ll be bugging the person I’m calling. I also take on tasks alone that should be two-person or more jobs, but I’ll kill myself before bugging someone to help me.
I’ve always felt so alone in this. Thank you for posting.
Hannah says
My guess, without looking at anyone else’s: “I need help.”
Noel says
I need help. That’s my toughest one! I canlt do this alone!
Jessica says
I need help are tough words for me too. You are not alone! I have to ask for help often and I always feel like such a burden to people!! I dislike it. 🙁 I also can’t stand rejection, so when I ask for help I freak out thinking they are going to say they are too busy and then if they are I sit and cry for a bit (part of that is because I know I then have to ask someone else)… I know it is ridiculous! But it’s just my emotions. I’m a basket case I guess.
Sheryl says
Oh! Those are tough words. For me it very much depends on the situation, but they are NOT my favorite words to say.
Joyyourfriendforever says
As Super Grover he never minds helping you…and neither does Jesus!
Joyyourfriendforever says
*ask*
Mamala says
If indeed it is what all of the previous comments have guessed:
I NEED HELP, well don’t feel bad, Ducky, you come by it naturally.
The need to do things without help (speaking from experience here) was for me the only way to squelch a naysayer. I wanted to be so much better than I was told I was. I not only didn’t want to bug anyone, I didn’t like the idea of leaning on anyone for anything. I knew that I had chops.
HOWEVER that was many years ago, and God has allowed me to find out how loved and adored I am–so, asking for help is no longer a sign of my lacking–it simply is a sign of my humanity.
Remember–Jesus–JESUS–could have gone it alone. But He elected not to.
One more thing–I always thought that I was boring and not worth anyone’s time–til one of my sisters (who wasn’t prone to gushing, back then) told me, “Oh my gosh, Kathy–the one thing you will never be–is boring.”
Kind of blew my mind.
And look what she created–
Seriously though–if they are all right and your three words are I NEED HELP–well they are much more astute than I. I thought they would be: No way, Jack. (These would be said in response to someone needing YOUR help–cause you are always the first one to sign up.)
You are a welcome voice, whose heart I must hear beat–every day. Never listen to the lies of the evil one, he isn’t your friend.
Malinda @ vintagehomesteademporium says
I have struggled through what you so beautifully articulated. I think for me,
I want to be an encourager and serve and think that somehow if I request
something that it runs counter to that. God is graciously and gently helping
me to discern the difference.
Thank you so much for your transparancy. Know that you are not alone.
Under His Wings,
Malinda
vintagehomesteademporium.com
Amy says
Oh I like this… But I thought the words may be ‘please help me’ or ‘help me please’.
On two (specific) occassions I did this… But it backfired… Cos by asking for help I was then deemed ‘not coping’ amongst other things. Well der that was why I asked in the first place. May the Lord clear my heart from these experiences that I can turn to the right person next time I need help and have the guts to ask…
Kara says
It has to be asking for help.
There was a time when I asked that question… When my children were small and I felt overwhelmed and could use some help just catching up on the menial tasks of cleaning and laundry (with 4 kids, there’s a bit of that). The answer I got from my divorced mother was, “I did it on my own, you can do it, too.” She had 2 kids. The thing is, she didn’t. She had her mother to watch her children during the day and feed us all supper before we went home in the evening in time to go to bed. The kids are older now, and are helping more, so the burden is not as heavy on my shoulders alone.
The next time I need help, I hope that I am able to find the right person, and the next time someone asks me to help, I hope that I am the right person.